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Post by Kuja on Dec 21, 2007 0:40:26 GMT -5
Understanding girls takes the fun out of it.
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Post by Seltzer Grenadine on Dec 22, 2007 1:45:01 GMT -5
Or you could just straight out ask what they think/want, etc. I know it sucks because some girls can't STOP talking about that, but I find it better to be straight forward with things like that.
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Post by Kuja on Dec 22, 2007 4:45:09 GMT -5
I agree with that. Then again, I've never had a problem listening to people talk constantly. I'm a good listner (as it requires very little effort, lol)
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Post by Shiva on Dec 22, 2007 7:51:59 GMT -5
Vincy will tell us of his problem...but I may as well just advise him in person *shrugs* other wise something might get lost in translation from thought to internet. ![:P](//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/tongue.png)
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Post by Seltzer Grenadine on Dec 22, 2007 13:14:31 GMT -5
I'm not a bad listener, I don't think. The only person I can't stand listening to forever is my mom. That woman tells her life story to anyone who has ears. It doesn't matter if they're listening or not. XD
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Post by Xenos on Dec 22, 2007 14:14:10 GMT -5
Wha was it, Setzer? That one night we counted how many times she said "I love you" before she finally hooked the phone? It was five or six, right?
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Post by Shiva on Dec 23, 2007 2:01:13 GMT -5
Xenos, that sounds about right...I know someone just like that...probably doesn't help that he's my boyfriend lolz! He and I once went back and forth 'you hang up', 'no you', 'no you' it went for about 5 minutes! Then we decided we'd hang up together lolz! I seem to lose focus when someone really needs me to listen if they're saying something really boring. I sometimes have a really short - OOOOOH! Butterfly! ![;)](//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/wink.png) ;P
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Post by Vincent Valentine on Dec 23, 2007 12:37:49 GMT -5
You girls and guys want to know my story? Then, Listen, to my story... "Tidus?" ~ "No Kid, now scram. Not for your ears!" ~ ---------------------------------------
He quaked with fear, uncertainty filling every pore in his body. The shame he would feel at either answer remained unabated and unabolished, as he stood staring into her deep and elusive, yet somehow, seductive brown eyes. Her words had cut him deep. Just moments before: "That's probably why I don't like you." but when they had spoken late the night before, after midnight, early in the morning, when she had said to him; "I think your fuckin' awesome."
Which were her real feelings? Would he ever know? Or would he continue to curl into a ball, late at night, in his bed, trying to find out which was the real her? Would he pour out his confused and scared feelings on paper? How could he find the truth without asking her and getting a lie anyway? Her friend had already betrayed the only trust he'd had out of the people he knew that were close to her, so his options were few. Even more sparse if he wanted honesty...
Noone else would be able to find out, as she would most certainly avoid any questions regarding the two of them.
He was fucked.
--------------------------------------- So yeah, that was basically the core of my confusion the other day. I actually wrote that, like it's written there, after I laid in bed, trying to get to sleep. <.< >.> And it's not the first time I've been driven to writing with this girl. I dunno...I just...feel more attracted to her, than any other before. ![:(](//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/sad.png)
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Post by Kuja on Dec 24, 2007 5:40:16 GMT -5
Ah, I miss teenage angst.
As Alex so correctly pointed out earlier, nobody ever follows advise, but mine would be to just not fuck around. The worst that can happen is she say's she doesn't like you, which might suck but at least you'd know. The worst thing a guy can do is waste time on a girl who isn't interested him.
As for what already transpired, if I was to hazzard a guess, I'd say she likes you as a friend but ins't romantically interested in you. Obviously I have no idea, but that's how it seems to a bystander. Otherwise, she's just plain confused.
Good luck with it, mate.
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Post by Vincent Valentine on Dec 24, 2007 18:27:36 GMT -5
Dude, I hope this ain't teenage angst...I've only got a couple months and I'm a damn adult. Why couldn't shit like happen when I was younger? That way it wouldn't trouble me now. -.-
Honestly, sometimes I follow advice, though it generally depends on whose giving me the advice. If it's a source I'd trust with my life, I'd follow the advice. But the worst part is, I'm still not over her. My gut tells me 'no chance, move on' but my heart doesn't seem to want to let go. Sometimes I hate my heart...
I've had very few girls romantically interested in me, and less that I actually dated (the way I figure it, out of my 2 girlfriends, only the first was romantically interested). She did say to me that the attention (well, I assume she meant attention) was quite flattering. So I'd say she is enjoying the attention.
Being 17 sucks *nods head vigourously*
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Post by Kuja on Dec 25, 2007 9:21:50 GMT -5
Seventeen was a good age for me. It sucks, but if this girl isn't interested, you have to move on. Saying she likes the attention is all well and good, but it serves only her. It inflates my ego quite a bit when I hear a girl say she likes me, but if I'm not attracted to the girl then that's all it is; flattery. On a different note, if there is any chance that this girls likes you at all, you have to back off a little. The girls on this forum will either back me up or condem me to Hell for this, but in my experience girls tend to be more interested in a guy who isn't head over heals in love with her. At least not until she knows she feels the same way. Distance yourself a little, make it known that, sure, you're attracted to her but you're not interested in chasing after someone who isn't into it. If you really can't move on, at least act like you are. At the very least, it'll help you get over her in the long run if nothing changes. Be a friend, be supportive, be caring. But don't fall into the trap of being the guy that has a crush on her, because she'll always see you as that guy. I'm not even saying don't act like yourself, I'm pretty much telling you to play it cool. And, without knowing more or having spoken/seen this girl, that is all I will say. I hope this hels at least a little, because now all the girls on this forum know my trick, so my chances of scoring with any of them has dropped by at least 40%. I've pretty much blown my chances with hot video game loving girls here, mate. If this gets out into the public, I'm finished! ![:-[](//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/embarrassed.png)
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Post by Vincent Valentine on Dec 26, 2007 9:04:05 GMT -5
Well mate, thanks for sacrificing your trade tricks for the forum to try and help me out. Though, the core problem is, I'm not generally able to play it cool. If anything, I say something, probably blush like crazy and try to look natural.
I can honestly say, she isn't interested me in the slightest in that manner, because I'm probably just the 'work-mate who has no idea', if anything at all. I want to give up on her, because I knew from the very beginning that she was out of my league. Yet, I did fall in love with her, and like always, fall for the type of girl that breaks my heart. I really need to give up on her, but I for some reason won't.
I have no idea why I'm so much like a love-sick puppy with this girl, but there's obviously something that's stopping me from controlling my entire body and mind into getting over her. Most of me is trying but part is halting progress.
Someone find me a girl that likes me, and I'll like her...maybe then I'll be able to get over D...
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Post by Xenos on Dec 27, 2007 12:50:33 GMT -5
I agree with Kuja. I'm certainly more intersted in a guy if I know that he thinks I'm attractive, but doesn't let me know that he's crazy about me. Before Presson and I started pre-dating I told him that I used to have a crush on him to which he replied the same-- although he studdered and then admited this to me once I was on the hook. Reeled me in, so to say.
If she likes you, she may not even realize it yet. Sometimes that happens. Girls will spend a lot of time with a guy and say "He's like a brother to me," only to find out a few months down the line that the "brother" has turned into something else. Now, don't go looking for this, but sometimes it happens.
I dunno what to tell you, man. If you're this nervous with girls, you need a girl who is willing to be supportive and to help you build your self-esteem. There are a lot of girls like this in the world, but sometimes they're hard to find. Think of it this way: just because you're going to be an adult doesn't mean that you'll find your wife straight off. You need to meet a lot of girls and find out which type is best for you..... Though I suppose, since you seemt o be so shy, this would be hard for you. Something will work out, Vince. I'm sure. Just maybe not in the way you think it will.
Kuja-- If I wasn't with Presson, I'd give you videogame girl luvins.
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Post by Kuja on Dec 27, 2007 18:46:56 GMT -5
Kuja-- If I wasn't with Presson, I'd give you videogame girl luvins. ![;)](//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/wink.png)
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Post by Seltzer Grenadine on Dec 27, 2007 23:06:39 GMT -5
Agreed, Xenos. Except I'm not hot. XD I make it sound like I have a terrible self-image.
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